After hemming and hawing about the expense of the plane ticket etc (i would have to rent a car, and do a hotel, because I am not staying in the same house with my creepy uncle.) The decision was made for me in an instant.
All the flights I could even approach affording are routed through the area of the country that is experiencing Ice. Flights are not getting in or out of those areas easily. When I called one of the airlines to inquire about a bereavement flight, they were very helpful, and explained that I may not make it in any good time for a fast trip like this.
It was confirmed when my coach kind of explained that his wife is trapped in Atlanta, and unable to fly out to either home or to her other destination.
So I suppose my guilt is assuaged. There is no way to really get there at this point in time.